We define an unhealthy relationship as involving mean, disrespectful, controlling, or abusive behaviour. This may include your partner:
Listen to you
Help you to make sense of your experiences
Support you to look at things like equality, respect and misuse of power
Tell you about your rights
Talk with you on your own
Support you to work on your self-esteem and confidence
Help you develop ‘keeping safe’ strategies for the future
Offer you a choice of how much support you want
Break the Cycle has been developed by Safe Steps, a specialist agency with a long history of supporting people of all ages who need guidance, help and assistance relating to unhealthy relationships and domestic abuse. We help people in lots of different ways; Break the Cycle is our specialist service for young people aged between 13 and 19.
If you don’t have any professionals supporting you, or you would like more information about our service first please call 01702 302 333 and ask for the Break the Cycle Team.
If you have a key worker, supportive teacher or other professional involved ask them to complete our referral form.
When we work with you, we will meet you either at our office or at your school/college; somewhere where you feel safe. Due to current COVID restrictions this may not be possible, so we can meet with you via a phone or video call.
We will always be open and honest. We will discuss confidentiality and what this means for you. We will agree an action plan with you on topics such as identifying unhealthy or abusive relationships, safety planning, self esteem, sex and consent and warning signs to look out for.
We will normally meet for around an hour. The first session may be slightly longer to make sure we understand your situation.
As part of the action plan we will look at how often you would like to meet with us and when is convenient for you to do so.
Speak to them privately, tell them why you are concerned, give examples
Offer to get information for them from professionals, including us
Offer to be with them to speak to a trusted adult (teacher or support worker) about what is going on
Reassure them it is not their fault
If you are still worried or scared for them, always speak to a trusted adult (teacher or support worker)
Break the Cycle provides support to young people who identify as LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans and those questioning their sexual or gender identity). We understand that LGBTQ young people may experience additional barriers around feeling and being judged or may worry about being ‘outed’; we can provide confidential, professional and friendly support and help so that you can plan your next steps.
This means ideally we need your parents or guardian to agree that you would like to work with us. We will not discuss with them what you have talked about we just need them to be aware that you are talking to us. If there is something that we feel may put you in great danger we will talk to you about it and discuss who we may need to tell.
However, if you still do not want your parents to know call and speak to us to discuss this in more detail.
We do not need to tell your parents that you are working with us but we can help you talk to them if you want to. If at any point we feel you may be put in danger or at risk then we will discuss with you who we may need to tell.
We understand that you may have questions or be unclear about things, and we will always talk about this further when we meet.
The training gave me conversation starters to aid communication with young people.
Break the Cycle has helped me so much… they have helped me through a terrible time. They’ve helped me to get my Universal Credit sorted, as well as giving me advice on safety planning. They’ve asked the Police to flag my phone and passport and they are keeping me safe. They’ve helped to look after me. They’ve also given me emotional support.
I’ve really enjoyed working with Break the Cycle; I’ve never felt judged and they’ve always made me feel comfortable. They’ve helped me to improve my mental health and life choices.
Break the Cycle have helped me. They’ve always listened.
I got the skills to help myself a lot more and I’ve become happier and more confident. I am generally calmer and happier than I was when I first contacted Break the Cycle.
Thank you for helping me to learn how to stay safe and how to positively cope when certain things happened.
It’s been really helpful having someone to talk to.
I was able to let my feelings out in a safe place. I feel stronger to say ‘no’ to people.